The Words I Long to Hear:

I am 27 years old and I have never dated anyone. I have always considered myself confident in my singless, but I am struggling a bit more with my singleness as of late.   I am starting to doubt God really has the best plan for me and sometimes this can lead me to have anxiety.  I am still a big believer God can use you in your singleness and singleness is a blessing, but it has overall been harder for me to live out this blessing mentally.  I know I want someone to love me and someone to tell me all the words I want to hear.  I want to hear that I am beautiful, smart, talented, and worth it.  I need to remember that no matter how much it would be nice to have a human man in my life to tell me those things, it would not be near as great as when the Lord, my Heavenly Father tells me those things.  I may not always listen to him, but he is saying these things to me all the time, and he is telling you words of encouragement as well.  They are all over in His word.  

The Lord tells me I am beautiful.  One of my favorite verses comes from Psalm 139: 13-14.  This says, “For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful,

I know that full well.”  God took the time to put together how we look.  He did not just throw pieces together and this is how we ended up.  He purposely put us together and wanted us to be unique and beautiful in every way.  God is a Creator.  He takes care of His creations, which means he took care of me and took care of you, too.   

The Lord tells me I am smart.  Proverbs 2:6 says, “For the Lord gives wisdom, from his mouth comes knowledge and understanding.” God continually allows us to be challenged.  This isn’t because he hates us or doesn’t love us, but he knows we are capable. We are capable in part because of the mind he has given us.  He again has blessed us with the Holy Spirit who helps us discern and problem solves on a regular basis.  This Holy Spirit has also given us power and creativity.  The Lord has blessed us to be wise and smart, and this is especially true when we rely on Him.  We may make mistakes, but this doesn’t mean we can’t learn from these mistakes and grow wiser and wiser.  He has given us this capability.  

The Lord tells me I am talented.  There are many times in the Bible when God reminds us to use our gifts to please him.  One of those is Ephesians 2:10 which says, “For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ, Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.” These gifts he is referring to are our talents and interests, and our spiritual blessing gifts.  God has given us a Holy Spirit that is powerful and has the wonderful fruits of the spirit such as kindness, patience, self-control, gentleness, etc.  These are talents.  They are not easy to share with the world, especially amidst the sin and the lies that are given by Satan.  However, they are incredibly valuable and need to be shared with the world.  These gifts make each one of us, as God’s children, talented.  

The Lord tells me I am worth it.  I want someone to make me feel like I am worth taking the time to get to know, worth spending time with, worth giving up things for, etc.  I quickly can forget how often God shows me I am worth it. There will be no one who would be able to fight for me or show me I am worth it more than Christ when he died on the cross for our sins.  This is said perfectly in Romans 5:8, “But God demonstrates his own love for us in this, while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” We are not perfect.  We are actually quite filled with sin, but God chose to save us and rescue us despite all of our sins.  Through this action and his many other blessings, He is constantly reminding us we are worth it.  

I need to remember that even if I were to get married, I would still be marrying a human man.  They have sins, shortcomings, and issues of their own that we will need to work through, as I do.  Regardless of your marital status, we as people need to rely on the Lord.  This does not change when we get married or when we have kids.  The Lord’s love and his words stay the same.  I hope this week, regardless of your position in life, God created you for a special purpose and reason, and he has put you in this particular situation for a reason.   There is a God who wants to encourage you and help you, regardless of where you are in your life.